Hooponopono – is one of the methods I employ as I go through my day. I have found after reading the book ZERO LIMITS by Joe Vitale and Ihaleakala Hew Len that everything extends from the self and by loving ourselves, apologizing to ourselves, forgiving ourselves and accepting it, We heal ourselves and as a result heal those around us. Yes, it may seem far fetched but look at it this way. If you are mad then the people and circumstances around you appear angry. People, esp pets, feel you mood and you mood has the power to affect others. So what exactly is hooponopono? Well, here is some excerpts from wikipedia Ho oponopono page that give a beautiful history and explanation of this mindset/practice.
Ho’oponopono (ho-o-pono-pono) is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. Similar forgiveness practices were performed on islands throughout the South Pacific, including Samoa, Tahiti and New Zealand. Traditionally ho?oponopono is practiced by healing priests or kahuna lapa?au among family members of a person who is physically ill. Modern versions are performed within the family by a family elder, or by the individual alone.
“Ho’oponopono” is defined in the Hawaiian Dictionary as “mental cleansing: family conferences in which relationships were set right through prayer, discussion, confession, repentance, and mutual restitution and forgiveness.”
It is a practice of extended family members meeting to “make right” broken family relations. Some families met daily or weekly, to prevent problems from erupting. Others met when a person became ill, believing that illness was caused by the stress of anger, guilt, recriminations and lack of forgiveness. Kupuna Nana Veary wrote that when any of the children in her family fell ill, her grandmother would ask the parents, “What have you done?” They believed that healing could come only with complete forgiveness of the whole family.
The process begins with prayer. A statement of the problem is made, and the transgression discussed. Family members are expected to work problems through and cooperate, not “hold fast to the fault”. One or more periods of silence may be taken for reflection on the entanglement of emotions and injuries. Everyone’s feelings are acknowledged. Then confession, repentance and forgiveness take place. Everyone releases (kala) each other, letting go. They cut off the past, and together they close the event with a ceremonial feast, called pani, which often included eating limu kala or kala seaweed, symbolic of the release.
In 1976 Morrnah Simeona, regarded as a healing priest or kahuna lapa’au, adapted the traditional ho’oponopono of family mutual forgiveness to the social realities of the modern day. For this she extended it both to a general problem solving process outside the family and to a psycho-spiritual self-help rather than group process.
Like Hawaiian tradition she emphasizes prayer, confession, repentance, and mutual restitution and forgiveness. Unlike Hawaiian tradition, she describes problems only as the effects of negative Karma, saying that “you have to experience by yourself what you have done to others.” But that you are the creator of your life circumstances was common knowledge for the people of old as “things we had brought with us from other lifetimes.” Any wrongdoing is memorized within oneself and mirrored in every entity and object which was present when the cause happened. As the Law of Cause and Effect predominates in all of life and lifetimes, the purpose of her version is mainly “to release unhappy, negative experiences in past Reincarnations, and to resolve and remove traumas from the ‘memory banks’.” Karmic bondages hinder the evolution of mind, so that “(karmic) cleansing is a requisite for the expansion of awareness”. Using her 14-step-process would dissolve those bondages. She did not use mantras or conditioning exercises.
After Simeona’s passing in 1992, her former student and administrator Ihaleakala Hew Len, co-authored a book with Joe Vitale called Zero Limits referring to Simeona’s ho’oponopono teachings. Len makes no claim to be a kahuna. In contrast to Simeona’s teachings, the book brings the new idea that the main objective of ho?oponopono is getting to “the state of Zero, where we would have zero limits. No memories. No identity.” To reach this state, which Len called ‘Self-I-Dentity’, one has to repeat constantly the mantra, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.” It is based on Len’s idea of 100% responsibility, taking responsibility for everyone’s actions, not only for one’s own. If one would take complete responsibility for one’s life, then everything one sees, hears, tastes, touches, or in any way experiences would be one’s responsibility because it is in one’s life. The problem would not be with our external reality, it would be with ourselves. To change our reality, we would have to change ourselves. Total Responsibility, according to Hew Len, advocates that everything exists as a projection from inside the human being.
All right, I hope that has given you a better understand of what Hooponopono is. I find it a powerful understanding and approach as I move through life and seek answers to issues and problems. It always seems the answer is to take total responsibility for the position you are in, the emotional state or situation. Apologizing, asking forgiveness and finally accepting it and loving yourself. I must admit the book ZERO LIMITS did help explain a lot.